It is a blessing to have friends that will be there for you at certain times in your life…Its comforting to know that they will be there during times of success and also in times of MASSIVE failure. Being a good friend means to be Non-Judgmental when it requires but also to confront dysfunction when it requires. Its a blessing to have those who will love you enough to tell you that you are wrong with your “crazy self”. Why? because every man does what they think is right in their own eyes…in other words you will always give yourself an “A” for who you are…but who can give themselves a raise or an unbiased performance review without the input of others.
First example, what if someone said you are a good guy and you really held me down back in the day when I was struggling BUT because I love you I wanted you to know that you are narcissistic and your ego is on swole…real talk. You need to chill out say you are sorry to your lady and humble yourself.
Second example, what if someone said you are a cool girl and you were there for me when I got pregnant in high school BUT because I love you I want to tell you that you don’t need to put your business all out there about your relationship on Facebook, to be honest, he just needs to put a ring on it for real. I know its your page and all that but you don’t need to expose yourself while you are hurting.
Both of the above examples are when true friends provide a balanced mirror not only showing your good side but also your bad side. Not everyone can handle a good friend…sometimes people would rather have yes men around them to celebrate their dysfunction or comfort in their confusion (those are not real friends) so rather than accepting the truth they isolate themselves or break the mirror/relationship leaving a path of shattered glass (relationships) behind them…I am always careful when I interact with people that have had “NO” real friends over several years…its a clear sign that they may be a covenant breaker and can’t handle an honest reflection of character flaws without taking it as an insult.
Choose your friends wisely, never isolate yourself from those that truly love you…don’t continue to fall out with every friend you meet who puts you in check…trust me this life can be hard enough alone…if God has blessed you with two or three in a lifetime cherish them, its OK to be mad when they confront you, but be humble enough to reconnect making the friendship last a lifetime.
~ Pastor Andre Martin
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References:
Proverbs 18:1
1 He who separates himself seeks his own desire, He quarrels against all sound wisdom.
Amos 3:3
3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
